Stress in romantic relationships is an all-too common occurrence that can have an impact on the way couples relate to each other. According to experts, some of the most common causes of relationship stress are moving house, work and employment issues, financial loss or gain, and difficult behaviours. Often, outside factors cause the most stress on relationships, and many people make it a habit to bring their work-related stress home. To maintain positive interactions and to keep the love alive, it’s important to find ways to cope with relationship stress in a healthy way. Here’s what you can do to cope with and reduce stress for a stronger bond and a loving relationship.
Give your partner some comfort
If your partner is stressed from work and has become sulky or uncommunicative at home, lashing out or demanding that they treat you better won’t work to solve the problem. Recent studies show that negative social interactions and relationships, especially with romantic partners or spouses, can increase the risk of mental health problems such as anxiety and depression, so don’t counter negative behaviour with anger. During times of stress, your partner will need your love and understanding. They’ll also need to know that you’re behind them every step of the way.
To give them some comfort, consider treating your loved one to gift that will encourage them to relax and spend some quiet time with you, such as a hammock that’s big enough for two, or a gaming console so you can relieve tension by playing games together. You can also give them a soothing massage and prepare a nice dinner at home. Doing these things will let them know that you’re in their corner, and that you’ll always be there through the good and bad times.
Connect with your loved one
It may be hard to show affection when you’re both stressed out, but taking time to connect can help to ease stress and anxiety. The simple act of hugging and kissing can keep intimacy alive, and these affectionate acts can help to lower cortisol levels and stress. Make an effort to show affection, especially if both of you feel sad or anxious. You can also spend time together outside your home, such as by going for a coffee or a snack at your favourite bistro. Before bedtime, have a conversation about your day, and offer words of comfort if your partner needs it. Once you start connecting more with your partner, you’ll experience less stress and have higher satisfaction in your relationship.
Take a breather
It’s easy to get overly emotional, defensive, or angry when you’re stressed. Sometimes, the best way to cope when both of you are feeling highly emotional is to take a step back, take a breather, and give each other some space. Once you’ve calmed down, you can talk about what happened and find ways to deal with the problem, or comfort your partner if the problem happens to be outside of your control. If you need to take a break, try going for a walk to clear your head, and let your partner know that you just need some air, but you’ll be back so you can talk things through productively. Stress is commonly experienced by couples, but don’t let it affect your relationship. Offer comfort, make time to connect, and take a break if you need it so you can strengthen your bond and keep your love alive. Lastly, don’t hesitate to seek professional counselling if you think it will provide solutions to your relationship challenges.